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A gentle values exercise
What matters most to you at the end of life?
These cards can help you notice what matters, what does not and what you may want others to understand if they ever have to speak for you.
There are no perfect answers. Choose what feels true today. You can change your mind as often as you need to.
- Approximately 10 to 15 minutes
- Private on this device
- No account required
- Progress can be saved in the browser
This is a private, self-guided values-sorting activity. It helps you consider what may matter to you during serious illness, dying and end-of-life care. It does not create a legal advance care plan or replace a conversation with health-care providers and trusted decision-makers.
Clearing your browser data will also remove saved progress.
How it works
Four short steps
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Sort
Place every card into one of three groups: important to me, somewhat important to me, or not important to me.
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Choose
Review the cards in your Important group and choose up to ten that feel essential.
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Rank
Arrange your chosen cards from most important to least important.
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Share
Save, print or discuss your results with someone you trust.
“Not important” only means it is not one of your priorities right now.
Sort the cards
Card 1 of 68
Is something important to you missing?
Add it in your own words. You can add up to 3. This text stays in your browser and is never sent anywhere.
Where does this belong for you today?
You can also press 1, 2 or 3, or ← to go back.
Your three groups
Review your sorting
Move any card that does not feel right. Nothing here is scored or graded — it is a snapshot of what feels true today.
Your essential wishes
Which wishes feel essential?
Look through the cards you marked Important. Choose up to ten that you would most want another person to understand.
0 of 10 selected
You did not mark any cards as Important. You can or continue with no essential wishes.
Ordering your wishes
Put them in the order that feels right.
Place the most important wish first. The order does not have to be permanent. It simply helps another person understand your priorities today.
Your reflection
What matters most to you
You noted that these matter equally to you.
In your own words
A moment to reflect
- What surprised you?
- Which wishes would be hardest for someone else to understand?
- Who should know about these priorities?
- Is there anything you want to discuss with your health-care provider?
Starting the conversation
You do not need a perfect opening line.
“I tried an exercise about what might matter to me near the end of life. Some of my answers surprised me. Could I share them with you?”
- Ways into the conversation
- Plan ahead: documents and next steps
- Island Health — advance care planning